When my sister said she was having a ‘spiritual divorce’ I leant in with raised eyebrows and asked to hear more. Apparently, there is to be no slinging of mud, no exchange of insults; she’s stated very clearly and politely what she’d like from their twelve-year-and-three-child marriage and she wants to remain friends. “I am letting go with grace,” she said and smiled in a way that saw us both finish our tea in hopeful silence.  

Letting go with grace. Too good to be true, or a civilized approach to removing pain and heartbreak along with who and what no longer works in our lives?  Whether you’re letting go of someone who doesn’t love you or of someone you no longer love you can find a way to gracefully surrender and let go.

When life throws us a curveball, whether it’s professional or personal, chances are we’re unprepared and not necessarily equipped to glide eloquently from a relationship or a job without losing our perspective or, worse, feeling so heartbroken and humiliated that ‘grace’ is the furthest thing from our minds. 

I have no doubt there are people so composed that the worst news can be delivered, and they remain impassive but for most us negative news tends to be swiftly followed by negative emotions. 

So, how do we remain composed enough to rationally process the end of something that meant so much that without it, or them, we cannot imagine our lives ever making sense again? 

Spirit starts by reminding us that above all else we are whole and complete as we are. We do not ‘need’ anyone or anything to make us worthy – we can do that all by ourselves if we choose to. In my job as a Psychic Medium, I speak to many men and women who are challenged by unhappy relationships and seemingly unending problems, rather than kind and loving solutions. The pain of staying always appears less traumatic than the pain of letting go but if I could wave a magic wand and fast-forward their lives by just a matter of months then they would see that letting go of the heartbreak was their key to freedom. Ask your Spirit Guides for their support, let them take the wheel, and drive you out of heartbreak city. 

It’s not the life without the person or the situation that scares us, it’s the fear of the rebirth from misery to happiness, from dark to light. Breakdowns are breakthroughs in disguise and if you can dare to dream of what is on the other side of the struggle and strife you live with every day you would see that you are as capable of letting go with grace, surrendering your weapons and your fears, and embracing a new beginning.

Life is not meant to be a never-ending rollercoaster of unmet needs and trauma. Let it go, let them go, and restore yourself to your natural state of peace of mind – with Grace.